FF40 – Day 2 on Community | From Amy Pfluger
DAY 2 – Community
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24)
This first semester of college is probably going to provide more social
events than you’ve ever experienced in your life. So you would think there
is no excuse but to meet your very best friends during this time! The truth
is, you may meet a lot of very good friends this year but as the psalmists
says: having many friends isn’t necessarily going to help you. You need close
friends that will be there for you, and help you grow spiritually during this
time of transition in your life. Not only will close friendships help you, and
bring you closer to Christ, but in the same way you will help your friend and
those around you. Because as Jesus says in John 17:23, unity within Christ’s
body displays His love for all to see. Loving others like Christ proves that
Christ’s love is living and active.
So how do you form close friendships? In a book I am reading called Glory
Days by Elizabeth Laing she states that, “Friendship is not a magical feeling.
It is a decision to give your heart to a person in spite of any differences you
may have.” That is how Christ is with us, He decides to give His heart to us
no matter how we treat Him, and because of that we have the power to give
our hearts even to people who are not exactly like us.
When you decide you want to form a close friendship with someone, step
out on a limb and let them know. Everyone is looking for a friend so it will be
refreshing to hear. One of my close friends did that to me freshman year, and
since then I’ve had someone to help me fight the good fight and challenge
me in my hardest times – which has made all the difference.
Once you form close relationships, pray about how to be a good friend.
You may have heard the saying that “To have a good friend, you must be a
good friend.” It is simple advice, but practicing being a good friend can be
difficult. We are by nature selfish beings, and many times we want friends
because of what they offer us. But this way of selfish thinking can be avoided
by remembering that our confidence should first spring from our relationship
with God, and then we can use Christ’s love as an example for how to be a
good friend to others.
The scriptures also offer many guidelines about how to be a good
friend, including 1 Peter 4:9 which talks about offering hospitality without
grumbling. Pray for help, look to Christ’s example on how to love, and you
will be rewarded with wonderful friendships this semester – and the rest of
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